Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted

By Pamela Ball

  • Genre : Sexuality
  • Publisher :
  • ISBN : 978 0517221877
  • Year : 2003
  • Language: Englisch

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YOUR sexuAL DREAMS INTERPRETED YOUR sexuAL DREAMS INTERPRETED Pamela Ball Capella This edition published in 2006 byArcturus Publishing Limited 26 27 Bickels Yard 151-153 Bermondsey Street London SE1 3HA Copyright 2002 Arcturus Publishing Limited All rights reserved No part of this publication may be reproduced stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means electronic mechanical photocopying recording or otherwise without written permission in accordance with the provisions of the Copyright Act 1956 as amended Any person or persons who do any unauthorised act in relation to this publication may be liable to criminal prosecution and civil claims for damages ISBN-13 978-1-90032-26-1 ISBN-10 1-900032-26-0 Cover design by Emma Haywood Printed in England CONTENTS Introduction SECTION ONE T h e Way We See Ourselves Relationships Madonna v Whore and Hero v Villain Teenage Dreams Homosexuality Deviations Fantasies 7 10 13 17 25 29 34 38 44 SECTION TWO Sexual Symbolism 48 A-Z 49 SECTION THREE Dream Interpretation 112 Introduction YOUR SEXUAL DREAMS AND FANTASIES EXPLAINED INTRODUCTION T h i s b o o k is primarily a w o r k b o o k to e n a b l e d r e a m e r s to enhanct t h e i r o w n lives t h r o u g h a n u n d e r s t a n d i n g o f t h e i r s e x u a l d r e a m s While b e i n g a dictionary of symbols a n d i n f o r m a t i o n it is also p r a c t i c a l h a n d b o o k for f u t u r e u s e a n d t h o u g h t I t s h o w s h o w c h i l d d e v e l o p s h o w a t t i t u d e s a r i s e why w e h a v e s e x u a l d r e a m a n d finally how to use sexual d r e a m s constructively It h a s beer fun t o write a n d h o p e f u l l y will b e fun t o r e a d T h e m a i n focus of my work - a n d my own p e r s o n a l growth - ha b e e n the very delicate b a l a n c e between masculinity a n d feminini t y b o t h i n t e r n a l l y a n d e x t e r n a l l y o v e r d y a n d c o v e r d y physicall a n d spiritually I h a v e l e a r n t i n p a r t t o u n d e r s t a n d s e x u a l i t y anc h a v e u s i n g k n o w l e d g e o f d r e a m s a n d s y m b o l i s m t r i e d t o achiev for m y s e l f t h e i n t e g r a t i o n o f t h e two s i d e s o f m y p e r s o n a l i t y with out h a r m i n g a n y o n e else in the process T h i s b o o k while b a s e d 01 s o u n d c o m m o n sense a n d n o t j u s t theory also gives explanation o n t h e n e e d for w h o l e n e s s t h r o u g h p a r t n e r s h i p w e all h a v e a s p a r o f o u r m a k e - u p We a r e c o n t i n u a l l y a t t e m p t i n g t o b e c o m e a uni f i e d w h o l e w h i l e still b e i n g a w a r e o f a n i n n e r d u a l i t y T h e r e i s a b a s i c story t o l d i n slightly d i f f e r e n t t e r m s i n m o s t i f n o all r e l i g i o n s w h i c h h i g h l i g h t s t h e i n t e r p l a y b e t w e e n t h e negativi a n d positive aspects o f the m a s c u l i n e a n d f e m i n i n e a n d betweei the spiritual a n d instinctual It c o u l d be said that it is the essentia p l o t - in o n e f o r m or a n o t h e r - f o r all s e x u a l d r e a m s Y o u thi d r e a m e r will a d a p t the play t o e x p r e s s y o u r s e l f a s freely a s y o u can a n d t h e m o r e y o u k n o w t h e m o r e freely y o u c a n e x p r e s s y o u r s e l f S o a slightly h u m o r o u s t e l l i n g o f this tale i s a s follows I n t h e b e g i n n i n g t h e r e was A d a m a n d h i s w o m a n - h e r n a m e w a Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted Lilith L i l i t h w a s a m o o d y y o u n g m a d a m w h o w o u l d n t always d o a s s h e w a s told S h e w a s q u i t e s e n s i t i v e really a n d d i d n t like i t when A d a m h a d better things to d o S h e u s e d to get quite destructive until i t g o t t o t h e p o i n t w h e r e A d a m c o u l d n t h a n d l e h e r a n d all h e w a n t e d w a s p e a c e a n d q u i e t H e o n l y w a n t e d t i m e t o h a v e l o n g p h i l o s o p h i c a l c o n v e r s a t i o n s with h i s f r i e n d G o d S h e g o t a n n o y e d w h e n h e d i d that b e c a u s e s h e s e e m e d t o k n o w all a b o u t w h a t they t a l k e d a b o u t anyway A d a m s o m e t i m e s felt l o n e l y a n d a l s o w a n t e d t o b e l o o k e d after b u t L i l i t h h a d g o t b o r e d waiting a n d h a d g o n e off down to the lake to do her own thing there She was m a k i n g d e m o n s all b y herself G o d t h e n m a d e A d a m a n o t h e r w o m a n b e c a u s e h e w a s lonely H e r n a m e w a s E v e T h e p r o b l e m w a s that s h e w a n t e d h i m t o d o s o m e t h i n g h e k n e w h e s h o u l d n t b e d o i n g a n d i t w a s all g o i n g w r o n g a g a i n M a y b e h e w o u l d h a v e b e e n b e t t e r o f f s t i c k i n g with L i l i t h i n t h e f i r s t p l a c e S h e w a s n i c e a n d s e x y a n d s h e m a d e h i m feel g o o d all over T h e i m a g e s which c o m e up in d r e a m s are drawn from personal experience the unconscious self a n d what J u n g called the Collective U n c o n s c i o u s Often w h e n we a r e aware of the types of c o n f l i c t within o u r s e l v e s m e n t i o n e d i n t h e a b o v e story w e m a y d r e a m in pairs e g m a s c u l i n e f e m i n i n e o l d y o u n g clever stup i d A n i n t e r n a l p e n d u l u m w h i c h starts o f f s w i n g i n g r a t h e r wildl y f r o m s i d e t o s i d e e v e n t u a l l y c o m e s t o rest I t h a s c o m p a r e d a n d c o n t r a s t e d all t h e i n f o r m a t i o n i t h a s c o l l e c t e d a l o n g t h e way a n d eventually sorts o u t the o p p o s i t e s into s o m e t h i n g which m a k e s s e n s e A d r e a m clarifying t h e m a s c u l i n e s i d e o f o u r s e l v e s m a y b e f o l l o w e d b y a d r e a m clarifying t h e f e m i n i n e T h e j u g g l i n g that g o e s o n i n this way c a n t a k e p l a c e o v e r a p e r i o d o f t i m e T h i s b o o k is divided into three sections T h e first is an e x p l a n a t i o n of the various stages a h u m a n being may go through as he or s h e m a t u r e s into a sexually c o m p e t e n t person T h e s e may include psychological concepts actions or e x a m p l e s w h i c h a r e r e c o g n i s a b l e i n e v e r y d a y life T h e s e c o n d s e c t i o n i s a n a l p h a b e t i c a l listing o f s y m b o l s o b j e c t s a n d i d e a s c o n n e c t e d with s e x a n d sexuality O f t e n t h e d r e a m e r s R Introductior m i n d will p r e s e n t t h i n g s i n s y m b o l i c f o r m i n o r d e r t h a t t h e d e e p er m e a n i n g s of the symbolism can be appreciated T h e t h i r d s e c t i o n i s a n u m b e r o f c a s e s t u d i e s with i n t e r p r e t a t i o n a t v a r i o u s l e v e l s o f a w a r e n e s s t o h e l p r e a d e r s e v e n t u a l l y t o inter pret their own s e x u a l d r e a m s T h e e a s i e s t way t o u s e this b o o k i s i n c o n j u n c t i o n with a g o o d d r e a m interpretation b o o k such as the author s own 10 000 D r e a m s I n t e r p r e t e d a n d to write d o w n the m e a n i n g s g l e a n e d to give t h e m o s t effective i n t e r p r e t a t i o n U s i n g this b o o k o n its o w n will g i v e t h e d r e a m e r s o m e b a s i c e x p l a n a t i o n s t o e n a b l e h i m o r h e r t o u n d e r s t a n d h o w d r e a m s c a n h e l p u s t o d e a l with i s s u e s o f r e l a t i o n s h i p a n d sexuality Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted SECTION ONE T h e d e s i r e f o r u n i o n with s o m e o n e e l s e a r i s e s o u t o f t h e a p p r e - ciation that that p e r s o n c a n give us feelings a n d e x p e r i e n c e s w h i c h w e a r e u n a b l e t o a c h i e v e i n a n y o t h e r way I t o f t e n s e e m s t h a t w e h a v e l o s t a p a r t o f o u r s e l v e s that o n l y t h e o t h e r p e r s o n c a n supply I n d e e d i f all t h e v a r i o u s p a r t s o f u s w e r e fully i n t e g r a t e d we would not need to seek reassurance confirmation of our attractiveness or love from others Most of us have the desire either to b e c o m e part of a greater whole or to m a k e others part o f u s D r e a m s with a s e x u a l c o n t e n t o r t h o s e a b o u t o u r s e x u a l i t y provide the information to e n a b l e us to u n d e r s t a n d a n d eventually satisfy o u r n e e d s S e x u a l i t y a n d a c t i o n s c o n n e c t e d with s e x u a l activity c a n m a k e t h e m s e l v e s a p p a r e n t i n v a r i o u s ways i n dreams W h e n a c h i l d is first b o r n it h a s to l e a r n t h a t it is n o w s e p a r a t e f r o m its m o t h e r I t m u s t c o p e with t h a t s e p a r a t i o n - i t b e g i n s t o b e c o m e c o n s c i o u s o f i t s e l f a s a p h y s i c a l b e i n g a n d o f its n e e d for w a r m t h c o m f o r t a n d l o v e T h e first s t a g e o f g r o w t h i s t h e b a b y s f a s c i n a t i o n with its o vn b o d y a n d its ability to be p h y s i c a l T h i s is a s m u c h t o d o with w h a t f e e l s c o m f o r t a b l e a n d n i c e - h o w i t f e e l s t o b e i n o n e s o w n s k i n a s i t w e r e I t i s a t this p o i n t t h a t h e o r s h e learns about touch - whether it is nice to touch or be touched a n d even i f t o u c h i s p e r m i s s i b l e If f o r i n s t a n c e t h e c h i l d i s h a n d l e d roughly a fear of b e i n g t o u c h e d may develop which c o u l d later m a n i f e s t a s a s e x u a l difficulty W h i l e t h e o r i g i n a l t r a u m a m a y b e s u p p r e s s e d i t will o f t e n s u r f a c e i n d r e a m s w h e n t h e d m e i s a p p r o priate Real growth takes p l a c e when the individual is n o t afraid o f t h e curiosity w h i c h a l l o w s a n i n n o c e n t e x p l o r a t i o n o f h i s o w n body D r e a m s will o f t e n a l l o w us to e x p l o r e this physicality in a safe way M o v i n g o n t o m o r e p s y c h o l o g i c a l a s p e c t s w e e a c h h o l d within ourselves basic pictures - or c o n c e p t s - of what m a s c u l i n e a n d femi n i n e s h o u l d b e T h e s e p i c t u r e s a r e often d i s t o r t e d b y o u r c h i l d h o o d e x p e r i e n c e s that which we learn from the adults a r o u n d us a n d a g r o w i n g p e r c e p t i o n o f w h a t i s g o o d a n d b a d o r rather 10 right or w r o n g T h e h u m a n b e i n g n e e d s to know that it is right T h a t d o e s not necessarily m e a n gaining approval it m e a n s more what feels right - a g u t feeling C G J u n g a n d his pupils m a d e extensive studies o f adults p e r c e p t i o n o f t h e s e b a s i c c o n c e p t s a n d w e r e a b l e t o d i v i d e t h e m intc functions of thinking feeling sensation a n d intuition It became p o s s i b l e t o b u i l d u p a type o f m a p o f t h e i n t e r a c t i o n a m o n g a l of these functions a n d to discover where o n e s own distortion occur E a c h function h a s a greater a n d lesser quality which it is possi b l e t o p e r c e i v e a s a s e p a r a t e p e r s o n a l i t y o r a r c h e t y p e E a c h o f the m a s c u l i n e a n d f e m i n i n e s i d e s o f t h e p e r s o n a l i t y h a s t h e s e foui functions thus there are 64 8 x 8 connections possible Wher o u r p e r c e p t i o n b e c o m e s twisted w e p r o j e c t o n t o t h o s e a r o u n d u - o r i n t o o u r d r e a m s - t h e a r c h e t y p e with w h i c h w e h a v e m o s t dif ficulty O u r d r e a m s will p r e s e n t u s a g a i n a n d a g a i n w i t h o u r owr d i s t o r t i o n or we will h a v e a t e n d e n c y to r e p e a t c e r t a i n p a t t e r n s o r e l a t i o n s h i p o v e r a n d o v e r a g a i n U n t i l w e l e a r n h o w t o c o p e wit - a n d u n d e r s t a n d - o u r o w n d i s t o r t i o n we c a n find o u r s e l v e s ir unsuitable relationships s u c h as a f a t h e r d a u g h t e r type or i h e r o p r i n c e s s T h e o t h e r s i d e o f t h e c o i n i s that with a w a r e n e s s o n e is able to accept others projections o n t o oneself withou b e i n g affected by them Often in d r e a m s the situations whicl n e e d w o r k i n g t h r o u g h c a n m a n i f e s t with a s e x u a l b i a s i n o r d e r fo u s t o p e r c e i v e t h e p r o b l e m clearly T h e t a b l e b e l o w d e m o n s t r a t e s t h e p r i n c i p l e m o r e clearly a n d the a r c h e t y p e s a r e d e a l t with m o r e e x t e n s i v e l y u n d e r t h e s u b - h e a d i n j People in D r e a m s in the alphabetical section 1 Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted MALE FEMALE POSITIVE NEGATIVE KINDLY FATHER KINDLY M O T H E R FUNCTION SENSATION OGRE DESTRUCTIVE MOTHER YOUTH PRINCESS TRAMP SIREN HERO AMAZON FEELING THINKING VILLAIN COMPETITOR PRIEST PRIESTESS INTUITION SORCERER WITCH - Kindly F a t h e r a n d M o t h e r a r e self-explanatory O g r e r e p r e s e n t s m a s c u l i n e a n g e r u s e d negatively a n d Destructive M o t h e r m a y b e wilfully d e s t r u c t i v e or s i m p l y t h e s m o t h e r i n g t y p e - t h a t is t h e m o t h e r who prevents the a d e q u a t e growth of h e r children Youth a n d P r i n c e s s a r e t h e m o r e g e n d e f u n - l o v i n g a s p e c t s o f t h e personality w h i l e T r a m p i s the e t e r n a l w a n d e r e r a n d S i r e n i s t h e s e d u c t r e s s o r s e x u a l l y active p a r t o f femininity H e r o i s t h e self-sufficient M e s s i a n i c p a r t o f t h e p e r s o n a l i t y w h i l e A m a z o n i s t h e selfsufficient f e m a l e - the efficient b u s i n e s s w o m a n type Villain is the m a s c u l i n e part of the self who uses p o w e r for his own ends C o m p e t i t o r i s t h e typical w o m e n s l i b b e r w h o f e e l s t h a t s h e h a s n o n e e d for m e n P r i e s t a n d P r i e s t e s s a r e t h e p o w e r s o f i n t u i t i o n u s e d for t h e g r e a t e r g o o d while S o r c e r e r u s e s i n n e r p o w e r totall y d i s p a s s i o n a t e l y a n d Witch u s e s t h a t s a m e p o w e r r a t h e r m o r e e m o t i o n a l l y a n d p e r h a p s negatively P e r f e c t b a l a n c e w o u l d b e a c h i e v e d b y b e i n g a b l e t o u s e all t h e s e 19 a s p e c t s o f t h e p e r s o n a l i t y i n a s c o n s t r u c t i v e a way a s p o s s i b l e I t w o u l d m e a n h a n d l i n g t h e n e g a t i v e m o r e difficult s i d e s effectively a l t h o u g h n o t n e c e s s a r i l y e r a d i c a t i n g t h e m THE WAY WE SEE OURSELVES I f w e a r e g o i n g t o u n d e r s t a n d w h a t r e l e v a n c e t h e way w e s e e ours e l v e s - or r a t h e r t h e way we u n d e r s t a n d o u r s e l v e s to be - h a s in d e a l i n g with o u r s e x u a l i t y a n d sensuality w e n e e d t o c o m p r e h e n d how that self-image grows as we mature It has b e e n discovered t h a t m e n s b r a i n s a r e d i f f e r e n t t o w o m e n s - s o m e t h i n g thai women have always known and appreciated anyway Men s a p p r o a c h i s a l m o s t always m o r e l o g i c a l a n d o n e - p o i n t e d than w o m e n s which tends to be m o r e d i s p e r s e d a n d diffused T h e o l d i d e a that a p e r s o n d r e a m s h i m o r h e r s e l f i n t o e x i s t e n c e p e r h a p s h a s f o u n d a t i o n in fact It is n o w a c c e p t e d t h a t a b a b y is aware before birth of what is h a p p e n i n g on the o u t s i d e T h e r e are also p e r i o d s when what is called R a p i d Eye M o v e m e n t occurs i n t h e f o e t u s R a p i d E y e M o v e m e n t i s k n o w n t o o c c u r i n a sleepi n g p e r s o n w h e n d r e a m i n g o c c u r s T h u s t h e b a b y b e g i n s t o internalise certain reactions to external stimuli a n d to r e s p o n d accordingly W e a l s o k n o w t h a t t h e f o e t u s i s f e m a l e f o r t h e first s e v e n w e e k s i n t h e w o m b F r o m t h a t p o i n t o n t h e r e a r e t h o s e w h o will r e l e a s e a l a r g e q u a n t i t y o f t h e m a l e h o r m o n e t e s t o s t e r o n e a n d will d e v e l o p m a s c u l i n e c h a r a c t e r i s t i c s w h i l e o t h e r s r e m a i n a n d d e v e l o p fully as females T h e brain develops in two h a l v e s t h e left s i d e o f the b r a i n i s u s e d f o r v e r b a l a n d intuitive a w a r e n e s s a n d t h e r i g h t foi s p a t i a l a w a r e n e s s a n d l o g i c a l t h o u g h t T h e s e two h a l v e s a r e j o i n e d by s o m e t h i n g called the c o r p u s callosum T h i s acts as a bridge b e t w e e n t h e two h a l v e s I t a p p e a r s that a l t h o u g h m e n s b r a i n s are some 1 0 b i g g e r t h a n w o m e n s w o m e n a r e m o r e efficient w i r e d t o b e a w a r e o f w h a t i s g o i n g o n W o m e n t e n d t o u s e both s i d e s o f t h e b r a i n i n u n i s o n m o r e effectively t h a n m e n a n d research is t e n d i n g to reveal that w o m e n d e v e l o p the b r i d g e tc a g r e a t e r extent T h i s is now b e g i n n i n g to c h a n g e as m e n develop t h e i r intuitive a b i l i t i e s a n d w o m e n d e v e l o p a m o r e a s s e r t i v e 1 Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted aggressive a p p r o a c h This m e a n s that d r e a m images are m o r e easily a c c e s s i b l e T h i s is p a r t of the n a t u r e n u r t u r e d e b a t e - whether for instance w o m e n learn from dieir m o t h e r s how to be m o r e receptive or w h e t h e r they b e c o m e s o n a t u r a l l y - a n d this i s r e l e v a n t s o far a s d r e a m i n g is c o n c e r n e d T h e i m a g e s that c o m e up in d r e a m s arise initially f r o m t h e s t o r e o f i n f o r m a t i o n a v a i l a b l e t o u s t h r o u g h experience Our perception of what goes on around u s will inevitably h a v e b e e n c o l o u r e d b y o u r u n d e r s t a n d i n g I n a h o m e where displays of affection a r e natural the child a n d the adult he o r s h e b e c o m e s will m o r e r e a d i l y e x p r e s s a f f e c t i o n C o n v e r s e l y i n a h o m e w h e r e t h e r e a r e s e x u a l i n h i b i t i o n s t h e c h i l d will t e n d t o b e m o r e apathetic H e m a y later discover only w h e n his d r e a m s p r e s e n t h i m with i m a g e s o f s e x u a l f r e e d o m t h a t h e i s b y n a t u r e m o r e o u t g o i n g t h a n his p a r e n t s W h e r e t h e s t e r e o t y p e s o f m a s c u l i n e a n d f e m i n i n e b e h a v i o u r a r e a d h e r e d t o m a n y p e o p l e will n o t q u e s t i o n t h e v a r i o u s r o l e s until t h e i r d r e a m s p u s h t h e m i n t o c o n s i d e r i n g w h a t they feel a b o u t v a r i o u s i s s u e s s u c h a s sexuality A s s u m i n g that the baby is aware w h e n it is b o r n it m u s t have a r u d i m e n t a r y k n o w l e d g e of what is comfortable a n d what is not S o after t h e initial d i s c o m f o r t o f s e p a r a t i o n f r o m m o t h e r t h e c h i l d b e g i n s t o r e c o g n i s e its o w n b a s i c n e e d for w a r m t h c l o s e n e s s a n d c o m f o r t A b o n d i n g p r o c e s s with m o t h e r o c c u r s w h i c h l a t e r o n i n life b e c o m e s a p a t t e r n f o r t h e c h i l d s way o f r e l a t i n g t o o t h e r p e o p l e - especially the female If his or her n e e d s are met then they g r o w with t h e e x p e c t a t i o n t h a t t h o s e n e e d s will always b e m e t I f they a r e n o t h e o r s h e will l e a r n t o s u p p r e s s t h e n e e d s I t i s well known that i f a y o u n g b a b y s d e m a n d s g o u n t e n d e d f o r l o n g e n o u g h t h e b a b y will s i m p l y s t o p d e m a n d i n g a n d g o q u i e t f o r i t will p e r c e i v e t h o s e n e e d s a s b e i n g i n a p p r o p r i a t e I f t h e l o v i n g b o n d i n g process d o e s not take p l a c e properly then a d i s p l a c e m e n t o c c u r s w h i c h m a y n o t b e c o m e r e c o g n i s a b l e until l a t e r i n life a n d t h e n o n l y i n t e r m s o f t h e d r e a m e r s sensuality T h i s m a y s u r f a c e for instance as a n e e d for close contact or a fear of letting g o It may also arise in d r e a m s as highly erotic i m a g e s Example I d r e a m t I w a s l o o k i n g f o r s o m e t h i n g w h i c h I h a d lost A b e a u t i f u l 14 goddess-like figure dressed in black a p p e a r e d a n d offered to help I w a s very a f r a i d o f a l l o w i n g h e r t o h e l p m e b e c a u s e I felt i t woulc put me in her power T h e d r e a m e r i s p r o b a b l y s e a r c h i n g for c o m f o r t T h e g o d d e s s f i g u r e - w h i c h he p e r c e i v e s as n e g a t i v e - c a n h e l p h i m to find this H i s a f r a i d however t o t a k e t h e n e c e s s a r y s t e p s w h i c h will g i v e h i n what he needs I n d r e a m s t h e a d u l t c a n b e c o m e a w a r e o f a w h o l e r a n g e o f feel i n g s a n d e m o t i o n s c o n n e c t e d with his o r h e r sexuality F r o m h i early c h i l d h o o d a n d m e m o r i e s t h e r e s u r f a c e s w h a t F r e u d c h o s e t call b u r i e d i n f a n t i l e sexuality F r e u d b e l i e v e d t h a t this w a s o n e o t h e m a j o r m o t i v a t i n g f o r c e s b e h i n d d r e a m i n g a n d saw i t i n t e r m o f t h e p e n e t r a t i v e a c t a n d t h e r e c e p t i v e p a s s i v e act B e a r i n g i n m i n d t h a t h i s society w a s m o r e p a t e r n a l i s t i c a s well a b e i n g m o r e i n h i b i t e d i n its n a t u r e i t w o u l d p r o b a b l y b e s a f e r i i t o d a y s c l i m a t e t o say t h a t d r e a m s h e l p u s t o c o m e t o t e r m s with a n d to u n d e r s t a n d - o u r own bodily rather than sexual i m a g e As baby grows it b e c o m e s m o r e a n d m o r e aware of what is a pleasur able bodily e x p e r i e n c e a n d what is not As an e x a m p l e if smackec for f o n d l i n g m o t h e r s b r e a s t t h e b a b y m a y d e v e l o p s u p p r e s s e c f e a r s w h i c h l a t e r m a y s u r f a c e as a difficulty with s e x If however s u c h a n a c t i s p e r c e i v e d a s a p l e a s u r a b l e e x p e r i e n c e t h e c h i l d wil b e a t e a s e with its o w n b o d y T h i s is shown m o s t clearly in a d r e a m which m o s t p e o p l e have a s o m e t i m e o r a n o t h e r I t h a s l o n g b e e n a c c e p t e d that a t som p o i n t w e will d r e a m o f b e i n g n a k e d F r e u d b e l i e v e d t h a t this w a a n a t t e m p t t o r e t u r n t o a state o f i n n o c e n c e a n d purity b e f o n there was bodily awareness In real terms such a d r e a m may simpl b e a n a t t e m p t f o r t h e d r e a m e r t o b e m o r e c o n s c i o u s o f h i s owr body H e c a n p u t t o o n e s i d e t h e b u r d e n s o f e v e r y d a y life a n d h a f r e e d o m t o b e s e n s u o u s a n d s e n s u a l S i n c e i n c h i l d h o o d th g r o w t h h o r m o n e i s m o r e active d u r i n g s l e e p i t w o u l d b e p e r f e c t ly l o g i c a l for a d r e a m e r to be a w a r e of t h e activity t h a t is takinj p l a c e in h i s or h e r o w n b o d y - e v e n if it was o n l y s u b l i m i n a l l y - a n t t h e r e f o r e t o wish t o b e n a k e d T h e n e e d t o b e n a k e d c a n t h e r e f o n h a v e m o r e t h a n o n e m e a n i n g Firstly t h e r e i s t h e n e e d f o r free 1 Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted d o m s e c o n d l y t h e n e e d t o f i n d c l o s e n e s s with s o m e o n e e l s e thirdl y t h e n e e d t o e x p o s e o n e s vulnerability a n d a l s o p e r h a p s t o c r e ate a climate of honesty a n d o p e n n e s s B e i n g n a k e d w o u l d only be s e x u a l l y e x p l i c i t i f u n i o n o n a p h y s i c a l level w a s t a k i n g p l a c e S e l f - i m a g e - t h a t is t h e way o n e p e r c e i v e s o n e s e l f to be - is v e r y closely t i e d u p with sexuality I t h a s b e e n s u g g e s t e d t h a t i n c o m i n g t o t e r m s with t h e p h y s i c a l b o d y a n d i n l e a r n i n g t o h a n d l e t h e g e n italia a c h i l d v e r y q u i c k l y r e c o g n i s e s t h e p l e a s u r a b l e f e e l i n g s a s s o c i a t e d with t h a t p a r t o f t h e b o d y w h e t h e r i t i s initially a n a c t o f s t i m u l a t i o n o r n o t C u r i o s i t y will h a v e t h e c h i l d e x p l o r i n g t h o s e a r e a s o f t h e b o d y A s with s o m a n y o t h e r t h i n g s i f t h a t p e r f e c t l y natural act is prevented or interrupted there may be repercussions or difficulties later o n If the recognition a n d the taking of p l e a s u r e i n b o d i l y s t i m u l a t i o n a t this infantile level a r e s u p p r e s s e d o r i n d e e d overly e n c o u r a g e d t h e r e will b e d i s t o r t i o n s a n d p o s s i bly d e v i a t i o n s w h i c h c a n o c c u r i n a d u l t life All this m a k e s i t s o u n d a s t h o u g h t h e r e i s o n l y d o o m a n d g l o o m a s s o c i a t e d with this p r o c e s s o f r e c o g n i t i o n T h i s i s p a t e n t l y n o t true We e a c h have a right to know a n d to u n d e r s t a n d what c a n a n d will - g i v e u s p l e a s u r e o n a p h y s i c a l level It is this early learn- i n g p r o c e s s w h i c h i s s u c h a n intrinsic p a r t o f o u r s e x u a l e n j o y m e n t l a t e r o n S e n s u a l i t y i s s u c h a s i g n i f i c a n t p a r t o f s e x u a l i t y a n d selfe n j o y m e n t t h a t if t h e r e a r e p r o b l e m s with this - p e r h a p s in a n e w r e l a t i o n s h i p - t h e m i n d will o f t e n trawl for i n f o r m a t i o n a n d p r o d u c e i m a g e s i n d r e a m s w h i c h will h e l p u s t o u n d e r s t a n d o u r s e l v e s better T h u s w h e n w e a r e e x p l o r i n g n e w ways o f b e i n g c l o s e t o s o m e o n e w e c a n o f t e n h a v e d r e a m s a b o u t o u r c h i l d h o o d o r previous relationships In a y o u n g child at the time of increased bodily awareness the d r e a d e d p r o c e s s o f p o t t y training also takes place For m a n y p e o p l e t h e r e i s a g r e a t d e a l o f c o n f u s i o n w h i c h still p r e s e n t s i t s e l f i n r e l a t i o n t o s e x u a l i t y a n d t o i l e t t r a i n i n g W h a t i s i m p o r t a n t i s that t h r o u g h toilet training the child first b e g i n s to a p p r e c i a t e that it c a n h a v e c o n t r o l o v e r its o w n b o d i l y f u n c t i o n s I t c a n a l s o h a v e a m o d i c u m o f p o w e r o v e r o t h e r p e o p l e a r o u n d it T h e s i t u a t i o n w h e r e t h e c h i l d i s p l a c e d o n t h e potty a n d e x p e c t e d t o p e r f o r m i s well k n o w n T w o m i n u t e s later after n o result i t h a s w e t its p a n t s 16 with g r e a t g l e e O f t e n i n l a t e r y e a r s d r e a m s s u r f a c e a r o u n d the i s s u e s o f c o n t r o l a n d c o n f o r m i t y a s well a s p e r f o r m a n c e e x p e c t a tions a n d anxieties T h e s e m a y or may n o t be overdy sexual 01 with a s e x u a l e l e m e n t w i t h i n t h e m Example I d r e a m t I w a s w a t c h i n g a c h o r u s o f g i r l s p e r f o r m i n g i n s o m e kind o f a m u s i c a l review I t s t r u c k m e t h a t t h e w h o l e a u d i e n c e were m e n E a c h m a n c o u l d c o n t r o l o n e o f t h e d a n c e r s a n d all the d a n c e r s were b e i n g m a n i p u l a t e d I was also trying to control a d a n c e r b u t n o t v e r y successfully W h e n I r e a l i s e d i t w a s m y m o t h er I w a s c o n t r o l l i n g I w o k e u p S e l f - i m a g e i s a l s o v e r y c l o s e l y t i e d u p with t h e f e e d b a c k w e receive f r o m o t h e r p e o p l e T h e r e i s n o w h e r e f r o m w h i c h w e will receive m o r e h o n e s t f e e d b a c k t h a n i n a n i n t i m a t e r e l a t i o n s h i p a n d often a d r e a m w h i c h h a s a s e x u a l c o n t e n t will p e r f o r m t h e f u n c t i o n o i confirming o u r own g o o d feelings a b o u t ourselves Working again on the theory that what or w h o we d r e a m a b o u t is also part of o u r selves w e s e e k a n d a c h i e v e s e l f - a p p r o v a l i n t h e s e x u a l d r e a m RELATIONSHIPS W h e n t h e c h i l d h a s f o r m e d a n i m a g e o f itself a n d h o w a n d whether the basic n e e d s a r e g o i n g to be satisfied or not it begin to learn how to relate to o t h e r p e o p l e Obviously the child s firsi r e l a t i o n s h i p s a r e with its p a r e n t s a n d t h o s e i n t e r a c t i o n s f o r m the b e d r o c k o f h o w h e o r s h e will r e l a t e t o o t h e r m e m b e r s o f the o p p o s i t e a n d o f t h e s a m e s e x T h i s f i r s t view will b e c h a n g e d and refined a c c o r d i n g to e x p e r i e n c e B e c a u s e t h e s e r e l a t i o n s h i p s a r e s o i m p o r t a n t i t i s q u i t e natural a n d a p p r o p r i a t e t h a t a t t h e a g e o f a b o u t f o u r t h e r e will b e s o m e kind of an erotic c h a r g e between child a n d - usually - the pareni o f the o p p o s i t e s e x I f this c h a r g e i s h a n d l e d sensitively t h e child g o e s o n t o l e a r n a n d m a t u r e l e a r n i n g all t h e t i m e H e o r she begins to accept certain behaviour as being appropriate a n d othei a s n o t I t i s c o m m o n a t this t i m e t o s e e t h e little girl f l i r t i n g with f a t h e r o r f a t h e r f i g u r e a s s h e b e g i n s t o r e c o g n i s e h e r o w n instinctive power I t i s e q u a l l y c o m m o n t o o b s e r v e t h e little b o y b e c o m 1 Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted ing solicitous over his m o t h e r s welfare If the child b e c o m e s conf u s e d d u r i n g this p e r i o d t h e r e i s t h e p o t e n t i a l f o r s u c h f e e l i n g s t o b e s u p p r e s s e d d e n i e d o r e x a g g e r a t e d T h e s e child-like r e s p o n s e s may surface in later years as d r e a m i m a g e s of incest a n d eroticism T h i s t y p e o f d r e a m i s d e a l t with m o r e fully i n t h e c h a p t e r o n devia t i o n s F o r m e n they m u s t e s c a p e f r o m f e m a l e d o m i n a t i o n t o a n e a s y s e x u a l r e l a t i o n s h i p with w o m e n a n d a n a p p r e c i a t i o n o f their o w n m a s c u l i n i t y w h e r e they a r e n o t i n c o m p e t i t i o n with father W o m e n however m u s t r e c o g n i s e t h a t their f i r s t b o n d i n g i n b o t h a s e x u a l a n d s e n s u a l way will h a v e b e e n with m o t h e r o n l y l a t e r t o be f o l l o w e d by a b o n d i n g with father A w o m a n will o f t e n initially seek a p a r t n e r who shows similar characteristics to b o t h parents T h e r e is a f u r t h e r s t a g e in t h e g r o w t h p r o c e s s - a r o u n d p u b e r t y w h e n t h e r e l a t i o n s h i p with p a r e n t s o r o t h e r a d u l t m e m b e r s o f the family s u r f a c e s with s e x u a l o v e r t o n e s A s t h e t e e n a g e r b e g i n s t o m o v e away f r o m c l o s e i n v o l v e m e n t with t h e f a m i l y t o e x p e r i m e n t with o t h e r r e l a t i o n s h i p s t h e security o f a k n o w n e m o t i o n c a n b e t r a n s l a t e d i n t o s e x u a l f e e l i n g s o r f a n c y i n g t h e p a r e n t o f the o p p o s i t e s e x I f this i s r e c o g n i s e d a s a t r a n s i e n t p h a s e n o h a r m i s d o n e a l t h o u g h t e e n a g e r s c a n b e c o m e very w o r r i e d b y d r e a m s o f h a v i n g s e x with a p a r e n t D r e a m images hold an element of past experience It is therefore o b v i o u s t h a t o v e r d y s e x u a l d r e a m s c a n b e m o r e easily a c c e p t e d w h e n w e h a v e s o m e u n d e r s t a n d i n g o f h o w w e g r e w i n t o t h e pers o n w e a r e a t this t i m e I f w e h a v e n o t g a i n e d s u c h a n u n d e r s t a n d i n g t h e n t h e s e x u a l a c t i s m o r e likely t o b e s y m b o l i s e d a n d perh a p s l e s s easily r e c o g n i s e d W e may for i n s t a n c e d r e a m o f s h o o t ing s o m e o n e or b e i n g shot or of b e i n g bitten by a snake As we m o v e into a d u l t h o o d we can b e c o m e aware of certain basic blueprints a n d ideals that we h o l d in o u r s u b c o n s c i o u s T h e m o s t easily r e c o g n i s a b l e o n e s a r e t h e k n i g h t i n s h i n i n g a r m o u r - w h i c h e v e r y w o m a n will r e c o g n i s e - o r t h e d a m s e l i n d i s t r e s s w h o n e e d s rescuing T h e s e blueprints - which J u n g believed were held by e v e r y o n e - c a n b e c o m e distorted by c h i l d h o o d e x p e r i e n c e s socialisation a n d e v e n p a r e n t a l e x p e r i e n c e O u r b a s i c i n s t i n c t u a l u r g e t o r e p r o d u c e i n t h e m o s t effective way 1fl p o s s i b l e b e g i n s with fantasy m o v e s t h r o u g h d r e a m s a n d s h o u l d c u l m i n a t e in successful sexual relationships Archetypes b e l o n g i n g a s they d o t o a p o o l o f t h e c o l l e c t i v e u n c o n s c i o u s allow u s t c access a h u g e source of information a n d knowledge as symbol a n d p i c t u r e s T h e s e e n a b l e u s s u c c e s s f u l l y t o c r e a t e a life f o r o u r selves where we a r e properly s u p p o r t e d a n d n u r t u r e d By coming to an u n d e r s t a n d i n g of the illusions a n d distortions we ourselvei c r e a t e - a n d w h i c h c a n b e c r e a t e d for u s b y o t h e r p e o p l e - w e arc a b l e t o a d j u s t o u r w a k i n g lives f o r p e r s o n a l s u c c e s s T h e s e a r c h e types o f t e n a r e p r o d u c e d initially i n d r e a m s a s i m a g e s a n d t h e r a s s i m i l a t e d a n d r e c o g n i s e d i n e v e r y d a y life W e c a n safely d r e a m o a s e x u a l r e l a t i o n s h i p with a n i d e a l f i g u r e w i t h o u t h a r m i n g o u r selves o r o t h e r s While there are other archetypal figures which a p p e a r in d r e a m s t h o s e t h a t a r e p e r t i n e n t i n d r e a m s o f a s e x u a l n a t u r e a r e those w h i c h a r e a s s o c i a t e d m o s t with t h e m a s c u l i n e a n d f e m i n i n e a t t r i b u t e s within o u r c h a r a c t e r It is e a s y to u n d e r s t a n d this c o n c e p t i we r e m e m b e r that we are conceived o u t of a c o m i n g t o g e t h e r o t h e m a s c u l i n e a n d f e m i n i n e W e will t h e r e f o r e h a v e i n h e r i t e d c e r tain c h a r a c t e r traits f r o m b o t h m o t h e r a n d father T h e y i n t u r n wil have inherited characteristics a n d behaviours from their parents w h o will h a v e h a d t o m a k e s e n s e o f t h e i r p a r e n t s i d i o s y n c r a s i e s J u n g b e c a m e f a s c i n a t e d b y t h e way t h a t t h e m i n d c r e a t e s s y m b o l and characterisations which appear to be common to al m a n k i n d I n t a n d e m with his w o r k o n a r c h e t y p e s i t w a s h e whc first d i v i d e d t h e f u n c t i o n s o f t h e m i n d i n t o f o u r a s p e c t s s e n s a t i o n feeling thinking a n d intuition L a t e r work by his pupils confirmee t h e e x i s t e n c e o f b o t h m a s c u l i n e a n d f e m i n i n e a r c h e t y p e s I t i s nov possible to d e v e l o p a kind of pathway t h r o u g h the various interac t i o n s w h i c h o c c u r within t h e p e r s o n a l i t y a n d m o r e o f t e n t h a n n o b e c o m e reflected outwards into relationship whether sexual o otherwise T h e first thing which n e e d s to be u n d e r s t o o d is that regardless o o u r overt gender there is an inner side of o u r personality that is o the o p p o s i t e g e n d e r T h u s t h e m a l e will h a v e a h i d d e n f e m a l e s i d e a n d t h e f e m a l e will h a v e h i d d e n m a s c u l i n e c h a r a c t e r i s t i c s T h i h i d d e n s i d e will b e a f f e c t e d b y i n f o r m a t i o n r e c e i v e d t h r o u g h o u 1 Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted life I f t h a t h i d d e n s i d e i s d e n i e d o r r e p r e s s e d i t will o f t e n s u r f a c e in d r e a m i m a g e s as a m a n or a w o m a n s o m e t i m e s recognisable by the d r e a m e r a n d s o m e t i m e s n o t A n i d e a l o f w h a t this i n t e r n a l m a s c u l i n e o r f e m i n i n e f i g u r e s h o u l d b e i s f o r m e d very e a r l y o n t h r o u g h o n e s r e l a t i o n s h i p s with o n e s p a r e n t s a l t h o u g h this m a y later b e c o m e d i s t o r t e d b y e x t e r n a l e x p e r i e n c e T h i s i n t e r n a l f i g ure is called the A n i m a in the masculine a n d the A n i m u s in the feminine As part of the growing-up process y o u n g p e o p l e begin r e l a t i o n s h i p s o u t s i d e t h e family A t this p o i n t i t i s v e r y e a s y t o p r o j e c t this i d e a l o n t o t h e i r p a r t n e r T h e y try t o m a k e t h e i r p a r t n e r s conform to that ideal rather than allowing them to be themselves It is probably i m p o s s i b l e for any o n e h u m a n b e i n g to be able to totally satisfy t h e n e e d s o f a n o t h e r w h e t h e r t h o s e n e e d s a r e e m o tional or sexual I n d e e d it is a sign of maturity when we realise that both we a n d our partner are g o i n g to require different things from different p e o p l e T h e r e is then no further n e e d to a g o n i s e over relationships where for instance a h u s b a n d finds himself b e c o m i n g j e a l o u s o f h i s w i f e s r e l a t i o n s h i p with h e r m o t h e r O f t e n t h e c o n t e n t o f his d r e a m s will g i v e h i m t h e o p p o r t u n i t y t o w o r k his f e e l i n g s o u t in s u c h a way t h a t t h e r e is b e n e f i t all r o u n d Example I d r e a m t t h a t my wife a n d I w e r e w a i t i n g for h e r p a r e n t s in a bar T h e y c a m e i n a n d m y wife i m m e d i a t e l y c r o s s e d o v e r a n d s a t o n her mother s k n e e s o m e t h i n g she would not do in real life I f o u n d this v e r y e r o t i c b u t I d i d n t k n o w w h o I f a n c i e d m y wife o r h e r m o t h e r I t h i n k h e r m o t h e r i s a n o l d b a t d e - a x e i n r e a l life In this d r e a m t h e r e is an instinctive r e c o g n i t i o n t h a t h i s wife is still maintaining the m o t h e r d a u g h t e r relationship which he now finds attractive r a t h e r t h a n t h r e a t e n i n g It is m o t h e r - i n - l a w s personality t h a t h e i s a m b i v a l e n t over T h e f e m i n i n e q u a l i t i e s i n a m a n a t b e s t h e l p h i m t o u n d e r s t a n d his m o r e c a r i n g a n d s e n s i t i v e s i d e A t w o r s t they b e c o m e d e s t r u c t i v e a n d put him in a position of acting in an unstable fashion For i n s t a n c e h e m a y f i n d h i m s e l f u n a b l e t o d e c i d e b e t w e e n two c o u r s e s o f a c t i o n o r b e t w e e n two w o m e n I n d r e a m s this c a n m a n i f e s t as a d r e a m where his p a r t n e r c h a n g e s into the o t h e r w o m a n or 9D v i c e v e r s a W h e n h e r e c o g n i s e s t h a t h e c a n c o r r e c t t h a t instability within h i m s e l f h e i s a b l e t o a c c e p t t h a t t h e d r e a m f i g u r e s c a n h e l p h i m t o u n d e r s t a n d himself I n s t e a d o f b e i n g a f i g u r e t o b e f e a r e d this i n t e r n a l f e m i n i n e can b e d e v e l o p e d a s a f r i e n d a n d ally R e c o g n i s e d p r o p e r l y t h e A n i m a b e c o m e s t h e M u s e o f t h e p o e t t h e I n s p i r e r o f t h e m u s i c i a n the Motivator of the b u s i n e s s m a n W h e n he a p p r e c i a t e s that there is a p o t e n t i a l f o r a n i n n e r u n i o n t o t a k e p l a c e h i s d r e a m s will often t a k e o n a s e x u a l q u a l i t y w h i c h s i g n i f i e s this u n i o n H e i s t h u s able t o a c c e s s a v a s t a m o u n t o f a w a r e n e s s a n d k n o w l e d g e w h i c h has h i t h e r t o b e e n u n a v a i l a b l e t o h i m H e will t h e n f i n d h i m s e l f m o r e a b l e t o b e s u c c e s s f u l i n r e l a t i o n s h i p s i n e v e r y d a y life w h e t h e r s e x ual or otherwise In d r e a m s the A n i m a can appear in n u m e r o u s forms sometimes showing herself as an unknown w o m a n as a g o d d e s s figure a s o m e o n e k n o w n t o t h e d r e a m e r a n d o f t e n a s a n a s p e c t o f h i s owr mother T h i s is b e c a u s e a m a n internalises his own p e r c e p t i o n ol the f e m i n i n e a r o u n d h i m b e c a u s e o f h i s e a r l y r e l a t i o n s h i p with his m o t h e r T h e latter will h a v e f o r m e d t h e l o d e s t o n e o f h i s r e l a t i o n s h i p with w o m e n I t i s often n o t until h e m e e t s s o m e o n e w h o ha c o m e t o t e r m s with h e r s e l f a s w o m a n t h a t h e will b e a b l e t o release the p e r c e p t i o n s a n d e n e r g y h e h a s k e p t p e n t u p T h e s e f i r s t r e l e a s e s a n d e x p e r i m e n t a t i o n will o f t e n m a n i f e s t a s s e x ual d r e a m s F o r instance in an a t t e m p t to discover his mother sexuality he may d r e a m of watching her - or p e r h a p s a d r e a m char a c t e r w h o r e p r e s e n t s h e r - a c t i n g i n h i s view i n a n i n a p p r o p r i a t e m a n n e r s e x u a l l y H e m a y d r e a m o f h e r b e h a v i n g with c o n s i d e r a b l e a b a n d o n m e n t when in actual fact s h e is s o m e w h a t self-containec i n r e a l life C o n v e r s e l y s h e m a y i n d r e a m s a p p e a r t o b e inhibitec w h e n s h e i s a v e r y o p e n p e r s o n I t i s a l m o s t a s t h o u g h h e i s testing out his hypotheses a b o u t w o m e n in his d r e a m scenarios P a r t i c u l a r l y i f h i s m o t h e r h a s i n h i b i t e d h i s s e x u a l g r o w t h i n some way he will h a v e difficulty in r e c o n c i l i n g h i s o w n n e e d s with those o f t h e w o m e n a r o u n d h i m H e will o f t e n e x p e c t t o b e m o t h e r e d b his p a r t n e r a n d b e c o m e very c o n f u s e d w h e n this d o e s n o t h a p p e n W h e n h e r e a l i s e s h o w e v e r that w o m e n h a v e t h e ability t o b e o t h e 9

Author Pamela Ball Isbn 978 0517221877 File size 618 1 KB Year 2003 Pages Language Englisch File format PDF Category Sexuality Your Sexual Dreams Interpreted is a must have book that provides you with a fascinating compelling and sometimes surprising guide to what our dreams really mean This informative book explores fantasies symbolism and hidden meanings that will either make you blush or wish it was time for bed sweet dreams Download 618 1 KB Great Sex for Life Essential

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